A BALANCING GAME

This Balancing Coral Game allows children to arrange in 3 different ways: horizontally, vertically and diagonally for advance level providing opportunity for children to think and decide how they want to play. We love this game because it develops three dimensional thinking while creating a structure that balances on its base. A lot of fun! Check it out.

Toy Industry Association's 2009 Specialty Toy of the Year

“Create Your Own Pop-Up Books was announced as the 2009 Specialty Toy of the Year by the Toy Industry Association on February 15th, 2009.” So, we couldn’t resist putting on our Cool Toy list. With this kit kids can make their own pop-up books. This product was designed by Creativity for Kids, a Faber-Castell Company. Included are a large number of decorative embellishments. Each hard-cover book has 12 pages (including the covers). One book measures 8-1/2" square and the other measures 6-1/4" square. There are 31 assorted die-cut pieces in various sizes, 2 sheets of stickers, 2 pair of wiggle eyes, 8 colorful markers and illustrated instructions and ideas. Also included are 5 different types of pop-ups that are provided with peel and stick edges. Check it out.

DON'T FORGET GEORGE

Is it President’s Day, Lincoln’s Birthday or Washington’s Birthday?

Well, Washington’s Birthday is February 22nd and Lincoln’s Birthday falls on February 12th. And with all the focus on Lincoln and President Obama’s fascination with the Lincoln Presidency it seems like it’s a celebration of Lincoln’s Birthday. The fact is in honor of both Presidents Washington and Lincoln, the third Monday of February is President’s day.

Since it is officially a national holiday here are a few things to do in the spirit of history. Check out the Huntington Library’s “The Last Full Measure of Devotion: Collecting Abraham Lincoln” which runs through April 27, 2009. The Library’s Lincoln collection is revered as one of the best in the country right up there with the Library of Congress and the Presidential Library of Illinois.

And Don’t Forget George, The Other President, visit the Mount Vernon website for a look back in history including Mount Vernon’s treasures.

And, the annual President’s Day Celebration at the Ronald Reagan Presidential Library in Simi Valley. Discover activities for the entire family from children’s discovery areas, arts and crafts, scavenger hunts, and presidential and first lady look-alikes. For the most part all of the activities are free, the food is not.

For more presidential facts and good reading, visit the PlaydatesInLa Store.

LABOR OF LOVE

While we indulge ourselves in the decadence of Valentine’s Day lets not forget those in need and the things in the world that depend on our generosity. All of the discussions in the news lately about high paid CEO’s getting exorbitant bonuses with bailout dollars got us thinking about Charities that compensate their head honchos with below average salaries but run highly rated organizations. Here is a list from Charity Navigator of the top ten rated charitable organizations with the lowest paid CEO,s. Here are a few we like:

Agape Foundation – Founded in 1969 as a nonprofit tax-exempt foundation, the organization raises and distributes funds to groups working for nonviolent social change. Agape provides seed grants, loans and fiscal sponsorship to organizations addressing the following six areas: Peace, Human Rights, Environmental Protection, Economic Justice, Progressive Arts & Media and Grassroots Organizing Support.

Santa Monica Bay Keeper – Founded in 1993, the Santa Monica Baykeeper's mission is to protect and restore the Santa Monica Bay, San Pedro Bay and adjacent waters through enforcement, fieldwork, and community action.

For a full list from Charity Navigator, click here.

Green Valentine – Chocolate, Candles and Wine

TheDailyGreen has some wonderful ideas for greening your Valentine’s Day. Chocolate, Candles and Wine is one of our favorite combinations. However, traditional methods of harvesting coco can be damaging to rain forests, spreading chemicals as well as fueling wars in Africa. But there is an alternative. Fair trade organic chocolate is becoming more available and is created through organic means and fair trade practices. Find them at Organic Style.

Soy candles are becoming the flicker of choice for those who are sensitive to the damage that traditional candle ingredients have on the environment. Candles are typically made from petroleum based wax, artificial dyes and fragrances and result in indoor pollutants. From Way Out Wax you can find an array of organic soy based candles. Made with 100% organic materials and scented with pure essential oils, soy candles are the way to go green on Valentine’s Day.

Organic Wine completes our trio because it is made from organic grapes and do not contain herbicides, pesticides, fungicides or synthetic fertilizers. Many award winning wine makers are making wine with organic methods. Organic wines are becoming more widely available at including Whole Foods Market and Trader Joes as well as online sources like Eco Vine Wine Club among others. Take it a step further and buy organic wines from local sources. Local wines are easier on the environment because they are transported fewer miles and use local water.

Of course music is always at the heart of it. For Valentines music ideas visit the Playdates Boutique.

OKAY! VALENTINES DAY IS COMING

Quick do something! Planning (or like us, no planning) to sneak out for a romantic dinner on Valentines Day? Tables fill up pretty quick so it’s best to book ahead. If you have a favorite place, great, just call the restaurant. But if you want to experience something different and new there are a number of websites to check out reviews, menus, pricing and then book reservations online. It’s pretty easy to find what you are looking for. The one we always use is OpenTable.com. If you are looking for a restaurant with a scenic view or outdoor dining they have a great list to review. One of our favorite dining experiences is Café’ La Boheme in West Hollywood. The décor is amazing with fireplaces and chandeliers the atmosphere is relaxed and classy. A perfect fit for good food with an Asian twist. Another favorite of ours is Villa Piacere in Woodland Hills. We have always had a consistent experience, and we love Italian. They have a beautiful romantically lit outdoor brick patio in the back of the restaurant, perfect for an intimate Valentines dinner. Whatever you decide to do, be safe, have fun and give yourselves a little time.

GO GREEN ADVENTURE

We were having a relaxing morning at home enjoying our oatmeal, scrambled eggs, coffee and orange juice. There were really no plans for the day. We just wanted to see how the day progressed. Spontaneity usually prevails for us as we are not the best planners. It occurred to us that this was the last day of the Go Green Expo at the Los Angeles Convention Center and it was something that we wanted to check out. We have been working on The Green Room for awhile and we felt this might give us some fresh ides.

I was hoping it would be entertaining enough for our four-year old, if not we would move on to something else. After all, we have been exploring downtown enough to find something interesting to do. So, off we went. Now if we truly wanted to be “green” as the theme for the day, we would have parked the car at the local metro station and hoped onto the subway. Or, might have logged onto Rideamigos.com and hooked up with other convention goers for a ride-share. But like so many here in L.A. we are going to have to re-program ourselves to do things differently.

After piling into the mini SUV it was a surprisingly easy drive downtown on a Sunday afternoon. Parking was fairly easy. We entered the parking garage off Venice Blvd next to the South Hall and found a parking space within five minutes.

The Los Angeles Convention Center is always an adventure for us. We like going there because it has such a worldly feel. There is always a sense of excitement in the air with a buzz around whatever events are happening. You can feel it. Entering the South Hall from the parking garage you come down the escalator to a vast Lobby with a massive polished floor. The natural light spilling in brightens the open beams and gives you an appreciation of how huge the place is.

Once we purchased our tickets and obtained our “Green” wrist bands, we ventured into the convention. Not surprising it was abuzz with people moving from one exhibit to the next; each booth enthusiastically pedaling their eco-friendly wares. Now remember, spontaneity is our style and we never know what to expect. While the convention center is cool, you never know what the event will bring. As we walked into the event hall I was struck by the feeling of excitement that seemed to be present. For me the first few things I wanted to see were the latest in electric vehicle and solar panel technology. It was all there from toys to grass. You name it. But the first thing that caught our eye, especially our daughter, was The Earth Dome. It literally looked like a giant globe sitting on the convention floor. Walking inside the dome we discovered that there was a giant video screen and a stage set for a concert of some type. There were musical instruments, guitars and drums. The floor was lined with artificial turf that actually felt like grass. The furniture was obviously made from some sort of recycled material. Later we discovered the chairs, tables and easels were created by AoSA. The intention here to create things with no waste left over. All of the products are by products of each other.

As luck would have it we walked in minutes before an amazing show of musicianship was about to begin. It turned out to be a beautiful artistic show with cutting edge live music celebrating the beauty of the earth. The documentary film featured inside showed us the detrimental impact that plastic has had on the earth. The Earth Dome experience was unique and different; definitely the highlight of the day.

Of course we couldn’t leave without seeing as much as possible even though it was late in the afternoon. We walked the isles and lightly investigated the various vendors around the event. We did get to see the electric cars and solar panels eventually. It was especially fun seeing all of the eco-friendly kid stuff. From stuffed animals, organic cotton clothes, finger paints and games here is a list of some of the vendors providing environmentally friendly products for the kids.

Bamboohugs.com
Towels and linens made from bamboo.

Clamorhouse Kids
Stories and songs for a young century delivering positive, appropriate peace promoting messages for kids.

Dimpleskins Naturals
Pure organic skin care products for children

Eco-kids USA
Eco-Dough and Finger paint made from natural organic fruits and vegtables

For a complete list click here

GOING GREEN - Cool Toy

Cool Green Toy

There are many green products and services emerging from all kinds of places around the country and the world. In our search for all things green we came across a relatively new toy company, Sprig. Sprig manufactures an eco-friendly product in a very unique way and covers all the bases. These toys are powered by kids, made of recycled plastic and wood and engage children in interactive play. Toys powered by kids, not batteries. Cool.

From Sprig.com “Designed for the active preschool child, our vehicle and character bodies are molded using SprigwoodTM – a durable, child-safe, bio-composite material made from recycled wood and reclaimed plastic. Our Sprig Adventure Series harnesses the natural kinetic energy of push- and pump-action play to generate lights and sounds – all without batteries. Interchangeable Adventure Guide characters plug into rugged yet appealing vehicles, engaging children in audio tales of exploration”

Buy It!

CHINESE NEW YEAR CELEBRATION

Don't miss the Golden Dragon parade this weekend. The Chinese New Year is upon us and the New Year Festival in Chinatown is gearing up for the annual celebration. The Golden Dragon Parade kicks off a two day festival including food, music, dancing, games and a car show. The highlight and main event is the Dragon which requires 25 men to maneuver it.

Its the Year of the Ox symbolizing prosperity through determination and hard work. So lets get to steppin' and start working hard at having some fun along with all those long hours at the office. Take the kids on a real cultural adventure.

"You cannot plough a field by turning it over in your mind." ~Author Unknown

Tips: You will find parking if you get there early, downtown parking is a bear. Parking will cost anywhere from $8 to $20 bucks. If you are willing to walk a bit you will save some money. To add to the adventure, leave your car behind. If you are anywhere near a Metro Link Station (most of us will have to drive to one), take the train to Union Station downtown Los Angeles, its just a few blocks from Chinatown. You can also take the subway if you are near an MTA transit stop. See More.

FOR MOM AND DAD

So it is said that life as we new it changes when we have a family, forever. Feed ‘em, clothe’ em, take’ em to school, run' em around, feed’ em gain, homework, bath’ em and put' em to bed. It’s all about the kids and we wouldn’t have it any other way, right? Balance your life with a little time for yourselves. Manage to recruit a babysitter and find a few hours to go connect with each other and the outside world.

Go let off steam at one of L.A.’s roof top bars. Reconnect with your old self, fashionable side, glamorous side, social side, whatever side for a few hours of drinks and views. The Takami Sushi and Robata Restaurant + Elevate Lounge opened in August of 2007 above the financial district with outstanding views of downtown. Featured in Los Angeles Magazine and others this place is on our list for date night.

COMMUNITY PANCAKE BEAKFAST

On January 24, 2009 Whole Foods Market in Porter Ranch hosted a pancake breakfast for the Los Angeles Fire Department Widows, Disabled Fireman’s Relief Fund and the California Emergency Mobile Patrol. The weather may have been wet and cold but the pancakes kept coming. There were a lot of happy faces in the parking lot of the Whole Foods Market in Porter Ranch on Sunday even though it was cold and wet. Thanks to all who participated in this event and thanks to the emergency response teams for everything they do for the community all year long.

We decided to stop into the pancake breakfast to give our thanks to the men and women who put so much into protecting our communities. This was a wonderful opportunity to introduce a sense of community spirit to our four year old. Although the number one thing on her mind was clearly pancakes. We got there a little too early to start enjoying pancakes and the rain was coming down in light sheets. As the griddles warmed up the heat from them permeated the rain soaked morning air; a perfect morning for pancakes, syrup, orange juice and coffee.

We dashed into the market for a short reprieve from the rain. When we returned to the parking lot the griddles were fully fired up and the line for pancakes had already begun to form. The pancakes were warm and delicious and so were the friendly smiles and laughter.

While we were sitting under the canopies filling ourselves with hotcakes, the cold rain splashed all around us reminding us of just how grateful we should be. The brave men and women who protect our communities from natural disasters do so in any conditions without hesitation. Here they are serving us breakfast, in the rain and cold, and having a good time doing it. Once again the true spirit of our community emanates from its participants and the efforts made by everyone to bring an event like this together.

Many thanks to everyone involved.

OVERNIGHT AT THE ZOO, TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE

An Overnight at he zoo does sound sound like fun. Zoopendous Nights Family Overnights - Tour the Zoo after dark and participate in fun animal activities. Wake up the next morning to the sounds of the animals and enjoy visiting with some of the Zoo’s animal ambassadors over a continental breakfast. This event is designed for ages seven and up. Cost is $45 per person for members; $55 per person for nonmembers. For more information call zoo registrations at 323/644-4211. Details.

EMERGING FAMILY CULTURE - DOWNTOWN L.A.

Our memory of downtown LA is of a place where skid row was the main attraction, empty buildings were common place and the environment was dreary and, frankly, dirty. The only things that ever lead us downtown were the lure of a great deal on jewelry or fashions. One of the best things to come out of the last ten years for Los Angeles is an emerging downtown neighborhood. Downtown has emerged as a place where families looking for more urban life can feel comfortable living. While the economic boom of this decade left us with turmoil in the real estate market and other aspects of the economy, it seems that a lasting downtown culture is emerging. Mostly conducive to single living or young couples, a family culture is emerging. In a post by David Kennedy entitled Life Downtown with Three Kids (blogdowntown.com) he describes a much different LA family lifestyle than one usually would expect from a typical LA family. We are so used to suburban living whether in a single family home, apartment or condo; most of our neighborhoods are not considered “walkable” by the standards of other big American cities. Where urban life provides all the comforts, conveniences and necessities we need without having to get into the car, most of the things we need are only be retrievable by getting in the car.That being said, I enjoy our suburban life and the Valley community we live in. There are no plans to move. But a trip to downtown Los Angeles once in a while is fun for experiencing the transformation that is taking place. We recently ventured downtown on a Saturday afternoon and had lunch at Philippe, one of the oldest and best known restaurants in Los Angeles. It is said that the Philippe is the home of the original French Dip sandwich. Here are some links to other downtown discoveries. Urth Cafe The Pantry Library Bar

NEXT TIME, HOORAY FOR HIPPOS

It turned out to be a bronchitis weekend. So the outdoor adventure for the weekend turned into an indoor adventure. What we had planned was this…..

Critters n’ Kids is a program offered through the Los Angeles Zoo’s educational program for children. Here’s why we are looking forward to the class. It offers the kids some age appropriate hands on activities, games, story telling and exploration of the zoo grounds. The class we wanted to attend was “A Hoot for Chimps”. We were looking forward to exploring the life and world of a Chimp, deciphering how they communicate and what they eat.

There is an eighteen dollar registration fee for members and permits the child and one parent to attend. Otherwise the fee is $23.00. Registration begins one month prior to the class date. The classes are offered during the week and Saturday starting February 11 (Wednesday), 12 (Thursday), 13 (Friday), and 14 (Saturday) For more info call 323-644-4211.

One of the great things about this program is there are classes for kids of all ages. The classes offered include: “Toddler Totes: A one hour class for children two years old with an adult, which focuses on animal adaptations and body parts, Critters 'N Kids: A 90-minute class for children three and four years old with an adult, which focuses on specific animals, Zoo Kapers: A 2 ½ hour class for children 5 to 6 years old with an adult, which focuses on world habitats and Zoo Explorers: A 2 ½ hour class for children 7 to 10 years old, which focuses on specific animal groups.”

This is definitely a great way to spend a few hours on a Saturday. We are looking forward to catching the next class, “Hooray for Hippos”. Maybe we will see you there. For now we are in for the weekend.

BRONCHITIS AND THE INAUGURAL

Our outward adventure to the LA Zoo this weekend was disrupted by a bout of bronchitis. We didn’t want to take any chances making things worse. Of course we didn’t know what it was at the time. With a bad cough and a 103 fever the night before, venturing out to the Zoo for the Critters N’ Kids classes would not have been fair to the other kids attending the class. We had been planning this event for a few weeks so when we decided to postpone it she was rightly disappointed, saying “I won’t cough on anyone I promise”. We didn’t think it was a good idea to venture out so we hunkered down inside and had a day of relaxation, right.

I’m not sure where she found all of her energy but I didn’t expect a sick child to want to play so much. It turned out to be a challenge keeping her entertained all day. Yes the television came into play, I’m guilty of that. We watched two movies, Toy Story and the Aristicats. Both are excellent films for entertainment value and highly recommended for a day at home. We also played outside riding scooters, walking, listening to the birds and playing with her favorite unicorns. The V-Tech computer game she got from her Uncle Denis for Christmas came in handy. Learning letters, numbers and shapes was great entertainment for about thirty minutes. Soon my favorite part of the day came, nap time. Normally it’s a fight to get her to take a nap. And she did put up a little resistance but she was not herself and finally gave into the comforts of a warm blanket and soft pillow on mom and dad’s bed.

Later in the afternoon just before diner we decided to look at the Inaugural Celebration coming up and it inspired us to break out our United States of America puzzle. This turned out to be a great opportunity to talk about our country and the historic event coming this week. By the way this puzzle is a sturdy wood puzzle with colored pieces that fit together nicely. This is the kind of puzzle I had growing up and I remember playing with it for many years. This puzzle gave us an opportunity to talk about our country, all the various states, what they are like and what government is. We talked about the world and the difference between the states and countries. While she is too young to really understand, we had fun with it.

PLAYDATES IN LA NEWSLETTER JANUARY 18, 2009

Each week PlaydatesInLA sends out a newsletter highlighting select places to go and things to do with your family in and around Los Angeles. Since this is a historic week we decided to focus on the Presidential Inauguration. Here are the highlights from the January 18, 2009 newsletter:


How Can I celebrate the Presidential Inauguration here in Los Angeles?


On January 20th President-Elect Barack Obama will be sworn into office as the 44th President of the United States. It is an historic event we can all be proud of. Many of us will stay home to watch this event on television. Here are a few ideas and ways to involve your kids and keep them entertained during the occasion. We got these ideas from SchoolFamily.com and you can download the pdf files here.

• After the new president is sworn into office he gives a speech and talks to the American people. Ask the kids what they would tell the people of America if they were the president?


• Download this free printable picture of Barack Obama.


• (For the older kids) A word scramble game related to Inauguration Day and has important words in it related to the president.


• Acrostic poem activity. Think of a word or phrase that starts with each letter of the word "inauguration."

Here are some broadcasts of the Inauguration on our local networks:

Disney Channel
There is a broadcast entitled "Kids Inaugural: We Are the Future." Kids can view and enjoy in honor of the inauguration of president elect Barak Obama. The show features a 90-minute concert in Washington honoring military families. Obama's daughters, Malia and Sasha, are expected to attend the event.

Nickelodeon
Will periodically present the highlights of the day with a focus on what it means for children.

ABC
Broadcasting for the first time ever "Neighborhood Inaugural Ball," Obama's first stop of the night. The new president and first lady plan to have their first dance of the night at the event, which will be held at the Washington Convention Center. Obama is also expected to make remarks. The ball will feature performances by top-shelf artists, ABC said in a news release.

HBO
Sunday night will kick off the inaugural festivities. Both Obama and Vice President-elect Joe Biden will attend the 90-minute "We Are One: The Obama Inaugural Celebration at the Lincoln Memorial." HBO has agreed to televise the event on an open signal so that anyone with access to cable or satellite television will be able to watch. All of these events would be great ways for family and friends to come together and celebrate the inauguration of our new President.

SPECIAL INAUGURATION VIEWING TO BE HOSTED BY JAN PERRY
Witness a live broadcast of this historic event on Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Nokia Plaza L.A. LIVE will broadcast the Presidential Inauguration and other festivities live from Washington, DC January 20th beginning at 7 AM. Stop by for all, or a portion of, the inauguration and share this experience with your community. KTLA Channel 5 will be broadcasting live throughout the morning.

7:00 AM - Pre-Ceremony Events9:00 AM - Barack Obama takes the Oath of Office 10:00 AM - Post-Ceremony Coverage and Entertainment 11:30 AM - 56th Inaugural Parade

MTV
The "Be the Change Inaugural Ball" will be televised live across all MTV platforms, including MTV, MTV2, MTV Tr3s, mtvU, MTV Hits, MTV Jams and MTV.com on the evening of January 20. Exact air times will be announced in the coming weeks. The live television event will also include live broadcasts from other locations across the globe, where young people are completing major service projects. Leading up to the event, MTV will showcase stories of young people providing service within their communities on a daily basis, beginning on January 1.

If you are interested in going out to experience the event, try these:

UWINK
The Westfield Promenade (2nd Floor Near Macy's Men's Department)
Woodland Hills, CA 913677:00 PM

Giggles n Hugs
Inauguration Celebration & Free Food DayIn honor of President Obama, Giggles 'n' Hugs offers a free meal for every child who comes to play, all day! Families can watch Inauguration Day ceremonies on the wide screen and get a free kids' meal with every paid admission to the play area. Read more...
11701 Wilshire BlvdLos Angeles, 90025310.478.4847
Calabasas Village Clubhouse
23500 Park Sorrento.
Calabasas, CA 913026:30 PM
818-222-8870

The Nokia Plaza at L.A. LIVE
11th Street just West of Figueroa.
Public transportation is encouraged. Take the Metro Blue Line and exit the Chick Hearn/Pico Station or the Metro Red Line and exit 7th Metro Center, then walk four blocks south on Figueroa. For local transportation within Downtown use the Dash, Route F which stops at Figueroa and Olympic. Bike racks are available just south of Staples Center or the Olympic East Garage (entrance on Olympic and Francisco).FREE PARKING is available in the Olympic West Garage (behind NOKIA Theatre L.A LIVE)

MAYAN THEATRE (Recommended for Mom & Dads Only)

Art of Change Inaugural Ball with The Mutaytor
Price: $10
Mayan Theatre
1038 S. Hill St., Los Angeles, CA 90015
213-746-4674

LA Times writes this...

Celebrate Barack Obama's presidential inauguration with the Mutaytor and DJ Wolfie. Obama's speech will be broadcast on the big screen while Carbon Grill serves farmer's market fresh food. The psychedelic performance spectacle known as the Mutayor will take the stage at 9:30 p.m. with live music, overpowering percussion, dance and acrobatics, followed by the spinning skills of DJ Wolfie and DJ Motion Potion. There's no reason not to get a little Blue. For one night, at least.

What is the Mayan Theatre?
Like a little architectural oasis in the middle of rows of generic office and warehouse buildings downtown, the Mayan Theater serves as both a dance club and occasional concert hall. With beautiful, intricately sculpted walls and a top-notch sound system, this place can really set an intense and dramatic mood for the variety of events that happen here. Club Mayan


Charity

Martin Luther King Jr. dedicated his life to serving the community and showed us all how volunteering can make a difference. To see Michelle Obama speak about the National Day of Service click here.

There are thousands of events happening all across America in response to President-elect Obama's call for a National Day of Service on January 19, 2009, Martin Luther King Day.
Connect with people and groups in your area to participate in events helping each other develop and improve our communities by visiting usaservice.org

GRIFFITH OBSERVATORY

We have heard so much about the renovated Griffith Park Observatory we decided to check it out. When the newly renovated facility was opened you needed reservations to get in, so we waited a few months before going. Since we had family visiting from out of town we put it on the list of things to do. The planetarium show was especially intriguing since this week was a period in the winter solstice when the moon appears the largest and brightest. My last visit to the observatory was as a child and I remember how exiting and fun it was. One very distinct memory is of the rooftop telescope, the view of Saturn. Pretty cool. Unfortunately the telescope was not working. But there were many other things to look at.

We elected to go in the early evening just at dusk. Normally we would have made this a day trip because the planetarium only allows young children under five to the first show of the day. Later we found out that there were plenty of kids in the later shows. It wasn't quite dark when we got there but dark enough for the view of the city lights to be spectacular, definitely a plus of an evening visit. But boy was it crowded. Despite the crowd, we enjoyed every aspect of the exhibits, the facility and the grounds. I'm not a science buff but there is something about the exploration of the solar system that is fascinating. There is a guided tour available but our daughter is a little too young to be patient enough to listen and observe. There were many things for her to explore and discover on her own. And her imagination was in full gear. In a few years I can see that the guided tour is a great way to go.

The facility is full of interactive exhibits and eye catching photos and visuals. This was enough to keep our little one very busy running from one fascinating thing to the next. We had a blast exploring the entire place from the entry rotunda, with its Foucault Pendulum and Hugo Ballin Murals, to the moon exhibit with a real piece of the moon. The Depths of Space Exhibit was especially fun. The exhibit is a huge subterranean room full of astronomical images, accurately scaled models of planets and cool exhibits illustrating details of each planet.

We ended the evening by walking the many terraces on the various levels of the Observatory. At every turn we enjoyed a sparkling view of the city lights. As we made our way back to the car we all agreed that it would be worthwhile coming back. When we got up the next morning we did just that. This time we headed straight for the Planetarium Theatre to take in the show. We saw the Water is Life show and traveled from beneath the ocean to as far as Saturn and beyond. The images of the night sky were amazing and when they illustrated how bright the starry sky would be without the brightness of the city lights, it made us feel how much we miss the outdoors. We moved through our solar system with crystal clear visual images of outerspace engulfing us as though we were actually in a spaceship. All three of us were amazed. As we turned to travel back to earth we couldn't believe how beautiful our planet looked. It really gives you a perspective of how small we are in comparison to the vastness of the universe. As we travelled toward the earth to return to the Observatory our daughter yelled, "We're going to crash!" She quickly covered her eyes and before she new it the show was over and the lights came back on.

A Sunday morning visit to the Griffith Observatory is well worth it. It was quiet with only a fraction of the number of visitors of the night before. While the nighttime skyline is fantastic, the mid morning view from up there on a clear day is just as breath taking. We relaxed on the front lawn to enjoy our snacks we had brought from home and just enjoyed the environment. It truly is a beautiful place. A must see.

For a few of our favorite astronomy book visit our Amazon store.

PARENTING 101?

In my normal perusal of the web for interesting information about this and that I came across an article from Raisinggreatkids.com. This is a very basic website but I found it to contain insightful articles on child psychology and parenting; particularly parenting. The author “…believes that addressing child-rearing issues and difficulties is usually best accomplished by working more with parents than with children…” I took to this article because I am always asking myself if I am going about certain issues correctly. Getting our pre-schooler to eat what the rest of the family eats for example is quite challenging and sometimes the difference between a threat (punishment) and discipline (consequence) becomes blurred in our frustration.
Ed Wimberly, the author and publisher of Raisingkids.com contrasts the differences between discipline-based parenting which results in consistency and predictability with predetermined consequences and Punishment-based parenting that results in inconsistency, unpredictability and minimizes the importance of predetermined consequences.

Enjoy the read…….

Article from Raisinggreatkids.com

Discipline-based parenting
While discipline-based parents recognize the importance of being consistent, their kids may not always like the consistent decisions that their parents make. They may also not always appreciate the positions they take, but as a result of their consistent responses, kids will be more likely to develop a sense of safety and security. This is because they know where they stand, what they can expect and what is expected of them as well.
It is this consistency of discipline-based parents which gives kids a sense of predictability. Because their parents are both consistent and predictable they are able to make informed decisions about how what is expected of them. They will also have a better idea of what consequences they will have to face next time.

Once in a while, it is not possible to state ahead of time what the consequences will be. But even when from time to time kids do not know specifically and definitely what consequences await them if they decide to head in the wrong direction, they still have a fairly good idea (as a result of seeing Mom and Dad’s consistency and predictability in past events) that whatever the consequences-while they may be fair-they probably won’t be pleasant if they make the wrong choice again!

Discipline-based parents know that it is this healthy dose of consistency and predictability which sets the stage for their kids being equipped to process and think through the possible consequences of their actions before they act. The benefit of knowing-at least having a good idea-ahead of time what the consequences of their actions will be, develops in them the all important ability to think in terms of, “cause-effect.”

This cause-effect thinking goes something like this: "If I do ............., then I can pretty well count on........... to happen". "Is it worth it?" "Is it right?" "Is it the best thing to do based on what I think will be the outcome of my actions?"
Discipline-based parents know that emotionally healthy kids do not usually experience a great deal of chronic anxiety in their lives. They also recognize the connection between being consistent-and as a result predictable-and their raising kids who are as free of anxiety as possible.

No one has the luxury of knowing for sure what’s in store for them next in life. This is one of the reasons we all experience at least a small degree of anxiety from time to time (and are all at best, “normal neurotics”!). Consistency and predictability in raising kids help the discipline-based parent to minimize anxiety and fearfulness in their kids.

Discipline-based parents know they won’t always be perfect in their efforts to communicate ahead of time what consequences their kids can count on. But they make an effort at it and they do their best. They consistently attempt to communicate their expectations and consequences in a loving, kind, firm and clear manner, even though in the midst of it all, they may be hurt, frustrated or angry (or maybe all three and even more!)

They do their best to avoid leading with their emotions when there is a conflict, even when they are in the heat of battle. Far easier said than done, but it can be done (at least most of the time!).
Punishment-based parenting
Punishment-based parents usually declare consequences as they express their anger (hurt, dissatisfaction, etc) at what their kids have done. As a result, the consequences are usually inconsistent, unpredictable, and determined by their emotions at the time, rather than by what is appropriate and reasonably called for in response to what has happened.
They do not recognize the value and importance of being consistent and predictable in the discipline of their kids. Since punishment is the primary change agent, and immediate behavior and attitude change is the only desired outcome, they teach their kids to evaluate only one cause-effect, and that is, "when I misbehave, I get hurt. If I don’t want to hurt, I’d better not misbehave”. While there is nothing really wrong with recognizing how their behaviors will affect them selves, it falls far short of what must be taught.

What ’s a parent to do?
Suppose for a moment that your teen-age son comes in on time from a date. After checking in with you they say good night, go into their room, and close the door behind them. Understandably you assume they are going to bed, but instead, they sneak out their window for a late night out on the town. (You kind of suspected that this was going to happen because that's what you did when you were their age!) When your son arrives back home several hours later, there you are, waiting for him in his room.

The discipline-based parent who is concerned with consistency and predictability would handle the situation something like this:
“I assumed that when you came in and said good night that you were on your way to bed. I am hurt/mad/disappointed (or whatever you are) that you lied to me, and that you chose to be sneaky in order to stay out later than you were allowed.
I don't know if this is a one-time event, or if it is a pattern that has gone on for a while. I do know though, that it is not going to continue. It's late, we're both tired, and so it probably isn't a good idea for us to talk about this tonight. We might both lose control. Give some thought to what you think might be an appropriate consequence for what you have done, and I will do the same. Then, sometime tomorrow we will talk more about this. For now, go to bed and do not leave your room".

The next day, you express to him in no uncertain terms the importance of being honest, and not resorting to sneaking around to get what he wants. You go on to say that the next time he wants to stay out later, he should ask. You might not allow it but you want to be open to his needs and you want to encourage him to be honest with you about what he wants. And who knows? You might just say yes once in a while.

Then you talk about what the consequences will be for this infraction and why you chose what you did. You remind him of the rules and make it clear that you do not expect it to happen again. You also address specifically what the consequences will be if it does happen again. You then express your love to them-in spite of your disappointment-and then you move on with our life, and with your relationship. You don't hold a grudge, nor do you bring up the incident again as a way of reminding them of our pain, sadness, anger, disappointment, or whatever.

Compare the above interaction based on discipline-based parenting with the following, punishment-based parenting response:
"Well, you've really blown it now. Any hope of my trusting you went right out the window when you did! I know that I haven't said anything in the past when I have suspected you taking off in the middle of the night, but this is the last straw! From this point on, you're grounded until further notice. Come right home after school, do not talk on the phone, and I don't want to hear a thing from you until you can say you're sorry. If this ever happens again, I can't even begin to tell you how you will regret it! Life as you have previously known it has just come to an end! Goodnight.

So what ’s the bottom line ?
Challenges to our authority by our kids are not only inevitable at some time, in some way, and in some form, but they are even necessary in order for them to think in terms of “cause-affect”. Their challenge to our authority provide us with the opportunity to help them learn to think ahead of time about what the consequences of their actions to them selves as well as to others, might be.

When the inevitable challenges to our authority do come our way, consistency in our responses to them enables our kids to predict what is likely to happen next. It is this ability to determine ahead of time-their ability to predict-that helps them learn to think before they act/speak. We also teach them through our consistency and predictability to consider what affects their actions might have on others around them as well.

Challenging what they have previously accepted without much thought is normal and necessary, and their challenges are signs that they are actually attempting to think for them selves. Just as a toddler whose first steps are unsure and imperfect, our kids will not always get their attempts to think for them selves right the first time either (or the second, third or even fourth time for that matter!). This is where our consistent responses to their “baby steps” toward independent thinking play such an important role in their development. It is not always easy to be challenged by them, but our efforts to respond in a consistent way will in the long run not only benefit them, but it will pay off for us as we

TO WIN OR TO WIN

We recently took our four year old to a friend’s soccer game to introduce her to the sport and show support for her friend. It was the end of the season the last game of the year, trophy day. While we were watching I noticed that our daughter didn’t look too happy. In fact she had a sad look on her face and seemed a little wilted. I asked her what was bothering her and she would not answer. So, I started to gently inquire with various questions about what she was thinking. I immediately thought maybe she felt left out. When I suggested to her that she can play soccer next season she immediately tensed up and said she did not want to play. In typical parent fashion I responded with “Come on, it’ll be fun and look at all of the new friends you will make.” After some more prodding and coaxing to get her to talk to me she finally confessed that she was afraid. I immediately thought she was scared of getting hurt but after more inquisitive conversation she finally came out and said what was on her mind. She said “I’m afraid I won’t win.” At that particular moment I was struck with fear myself. Have we done something to emphasis that winning is all important and that if you don’t win somehow you are not good enough? Worse yet, if you think you cannot win, don’t participate? I had heard plenty of parents urging their kids to do well and the occasional extra prize for making a goal, but I didn't stop to think that the emphasis on winning was overshadowing the fun factor. Now, we are talking about four year-old kids kicking a ball around a grass field. I saw lots of smiling faces out there. But I also saw seriousness and frustration.

I suddenly found myself caught between psycho-analyzing myself and attempting to reassure my daughter that winning isn’t everything. I looked around suddenly feeling like I was being watched and blurted out the words “It’s not whether you win or lose its how you play the game.” I really am turning into my parents, repeating things to my kids that my parents said to me. I reassured my daughter that the most important thing is to participate, have fun and play by the rules. Only being four years old I’m not sure she followed but I realized that this is a critical time for her to learn the qualities of team sports and the real purpose of working together for a common goal. Having fun is probably the most important part of all but if the emphasis is on winning then the fun can get dissolved pretty quick under the pressure. Especially if winning is an expectation set up by the parents. The last thing your child wants is to disappoint you.

I was not a child athlete myself but I remember by brother's involvement in little league and my parents constant complaining about how competitive the other parents were. I remember the emphasis on winning and the arguments and fights on the field, between the parents! The whole experience left me with an avoidance of organized sports for kids. But as an adult, now having a child of my own, I have become aware of how important it is for kids to learn team work, good practice, commitment and discipline. Organized sports is a great avenue for just that. But it takes positive parent involvement to be really effective. While winning may be the point of playing the game on the surface, playing the game well and having fun seems to me to be the underlying message that must be transmitted to the kids. If the emphasis on winning is so great that it overshadows the importance of participation and having fun, fear of not winning may undermine the motivation to play sports or even to try altogether. Joel Fish in his book, 101 Ways to Be a Terrific Sports Parent : Making Athletics a Positive Experience for Your Child, emphasises the importance of communicating to your child that you love them win or lose. I found this book to be a great read and offers valuable information and insight for any parent with kids in sports. Your child needs to know that you love and support them even if they don't win. Set your level of expectation on performance, effort and how they play the game. Win or not they can be assured that you will be proud of them for their effort, discipline and sportsmanship.

A few days after the soccer game I reassured my daughter that I loved her for how she participates in her activities and how proud I am of how well she plays by the rules and has fun with her friends. Maybe with enough reassurance, by the time she starts in the next soccer league season, she will be ready to have fun, win or lose.